A gentle note before you read this: This letter mentions infant loss. If that is a tender subject, please take care of yourself and read when you're ready or not at all. Hello dear one, Nineteen years ago, I started The Consciously Parenting Project on my son Jacob's birthday. Jacob came into the world 24 years ago on Sept 21, 2002 at 10am and he left at noon. He had a neural tube defect that was incompatible with life. He was born at home right after the heat of summer broke as tornadoes...
about 1 month ago • 4 min read
Hello dear one, Just a quick note before the weekend: the Fall Equinox Radical Rest Retreat begins tomorrow, this Friday, September 18, at 12pm EDT, and there's still room if you'd like to join us. You don't have to be ready. You don't have to clear the whole weekend. You can drop in for one call, rest for an hour, or take part in whatever way fits your actual life. The whole point is that slowing down even a little, even imperfectly, can show you something you couldn't see while you were...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Hello dear one, Just a quick note: our very first community circle is tomorrow, Saturday, September 12, at 1:00pm EDT. About 90 minutes, on Zoom. It's a gentle, welcoming space, come to share, to ask, or simply to listen. There's nothing to prepare and nothing you have to say. Come as you are, for as much or as little as feels right. By donation, and everyone is welcome. If you'd like to join us, save your spot here and we'll send you the link: Save My Spot! I would love to have you join us!...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Hello dear one, I'll be honest with you: normally I'd have been talking about this for weeks. This time, life has been full with clients, the turning of the season, a lot vying for my attention, and I'm only now telling you about something happening next weekend. Which, it turns out, is rather the point. The Radical Rest Retreat is next weekend, the fall equinox, September 18 to 20. Online, from wherever you are. And here is what I most want you to hear: you don't have to be perfectly ready...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Hello dear one, Last week I told you about the circles that are beginning, and about the current that runs through them: give and receive, in-breath and out-breath, no fixed giver and no fixed receiver. This week I want to go a little deeper, into what that actually asks of us, because it's something our culture doesn't teach, and I think that's part of why these circles are needed. Most of us were raised inside a transactional market system. I pay, you provide, we're square, and we owe each...
about 2 months ago • 5 min read
Hello dear one, I am making a big change in the way I'm doing things, starting with some new ways you can receive support. It feels exciting and alive and more aligned with my work. Maybe I'm finally catching up to myself?! That could be super fun. I've been thinking a lot about what makes a relationship, a group, or a situation feel truly alive, and I keep coming back to one word: reciprocity. I've seen this in groups that thrive, couples where the relationship is flourishing, even...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
Hello dear one, Over the past few weeks, I taught three masterclasses on imprints, the patterns we arrive with, laid down before words, that shape how we start, how we leave, how we wait, and how we come back into connection. I want to make sure you have all three, because there's something in them for everyone. No cost, watch now, 30-minutes or less masterclasses! For parents: how your child's earliest story shows up in the moments that feel hardest, and how understanding it changes the...
2 months ago • 2 min read
Hello dear one, For weeks, we've been exploring imprints together, the patterns we each hold in our bodies and that come out in ways we weren't taught to see or understand. It's the work that was explained to me and I didn't understand, but trusted that my mentor, Ray Castellino, knew something that I didn't know yet. And once you see it, you can't unsee it and it has been the thing that helps me to understand myself and those around me in a different, more compassionate way. So I'm excited...
3 months ago • 1 min read
Hello dear one, For the past several weeks, I've been sharing about imprints, patterns, and body memories of things that happened before you could consciously remember. I'm deciding what to make next and I'd sincerely like to hear from you. What keeps happening in your life right now that isn't working? The thing that repeats. The thing that wakes you up at night, or that you find yourself worrying about in your free time. Because I work with relationships, it might show up there. With your...
3 months ago • 1 min read