Hello dear one, I am making a big change in the way I'm doing things, starting with some new ways you can receive support. It feels exciting and alive and more aligned with my work. Maybe I'm finally catching up to myself?! That could be super fun. I've been thinking a lot about what makes a relationship, a group, or a situation feel truly alive, and I keep coming back to one word: reciprocity. I've seen this in groups that thrive, couples where the relationship is flourishing, even...
12 days ago • 3 min read
Hello dear one, Over the past few weeks, I taught three masterclasses on imprints, the patterns we arrive with, laid down before words, that shape how we start, how we leave, how we wait, and how we come back into connection. I want to make sure you have all three, because there's something in them for everyone. No cost, watch now, 30-minutes or less masterclasses! For parents: how your child's earliest story shows up in the moments that feel hardest, and how understanding it changes the...
19 days ago • 2 min read
Hello dear one, For weeks, we've been exploring imprints together, the patterns we each hold in our bodies and that come out in ways we weren't taught to see or understand. It's the work that was explained to me and I didn't understand, but trusted that my mentor, Ray Castellino, knew something that I didn't know yet. And once you see it, you can't unsee it and it has been the thing that helps me to understand myself and those around me in a different, more compassionate way. So I'm excited...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Hello dear one, For the past several weeks, I've been sharing about imprints, patterns, and body memories of things that happened before you could consciously remember. I'm deciding what to make next and I'd sincerely like to hear from you. What keeps happening in your life right now that isn't working? The thing that repeats. The thing that wakes you up at night, or that you find yourself worrying about in your free time. Because I work with relationships, it might show up there. With your...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Hello dear one, For a few weeks now I've been writing to you about imprints, the patterns we carry from our very beginnings, the story that shows up in the smallest moments of an ordinary day and also in our milestone moments. (How we do one thing is how we do everything!) I've made something that gathers it all into one place, and it's ready for you. It's a short video (under 6 minutes). In it, I tell you about the first time I really saw an imprint, a three-day-old baby who changed the way...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Hello dear one, As we’ve been looking at the idea of imprints, or the patterns in the nervous system that repeat throughout our lives, maybe you’ve been sitting with a question that many of us have had: Is it too late to heal? Maybe you’re a parent, thinking about your child’s experience of coming into the world. Maybe it was rough, but it’s over now and everyone said not to worry about it. Maybe you’re wondering about the things that you do over and over again that might somehow be connected...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
Hello dear one, We've learned to see the world in a certain way. We interpret what we think is happening, and we make up stories about ourselves and our loved ones. The slammed door means something. The child who won't fall asleep, or settle into our arms, means something else. And the way we judge ourselves after we snap at the person we love most, freeze when it's time to begin or rush through the ending, that means something too. We only see the behavior, and we just want to make it stop....
2 months ago • 2 min read
Hello dear one, Most of us have quiet ways of holding our days together. The order we do things in. The route we always take. The little rituals we don't even register as rituals until something interrupts them. And then the day shifts. A holiday. A trip. A guest in the house. The kids home from school. Suddenly the smooth thing isn't smooth, and we find ourselves snagging on a moment that any other week we'd move right through. I want to offer you something to consider about those moments to...
2 months ago • 2 min read
Hello dear one, Can I tell you about a morning that taught me something that you might also recognize in yourself or someone you love? My friend, Hannah, was visiting me, and one morning we were leaving the house together for the first time. I'd done my preparations the night before, which I don’t normally do so thoroughly, so I felt spacious. I was downstairs, watching the cats finish their food so I could put the outside cat back out before we left. Hannah came downstairs, looked at the...
2 months ago • 3 min read